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Post by oldman on May 2, 2016 13:12:44 GMT -5
"Secret to passing is the shuffle step." "Make friends with the floor!" I kinda get what your saying.
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Post by fieldsoffire on May 2, 2016 13:18:16 GMT -5
"What scares me is they asked to be yelled at, and I did and it worked .." Actually it didn't work.. a player's performance will always regress to the mean regardless of what we do as coaches... In other words each athlete plays at a specific level (the mean). Sometimes they play great (playing above and beyond their ability) and sometimes they play bad (playing worse than their ability). So when a player is playing bad coaches tend to yell and get mad at them and eventually the player's performance improves. This gives the coach the false idea that their yelling had a positive effect and resulted in the underperforming player improving their performance. On the flip side when a player significantly outperforms their normal ability coaches tend to react positively by high fiving, clapping, backslapping and generally positive feedback to the player. However the player is always unable to sustain this level of performance and will always revert back to their mean. The real key is figuring out each player's mean. When they are underperforming - take action X and when they are overperforming, don't expect it to last. Also the mean is not a "fixed" variable. It can move up and it can move down but generally is a long term result, not a short term one. So players with the right coaching, time and practice can get better and significantly improve their mean. Players that receive poor, inadequate or faulty instruction can actually see their mean decrease. Now as for action "X" referenced above in my opinion, motivation is best acquired by getting players to want to play hard and improve for you and this is best accomplished in a relationship where there is mutual respect and trust, not blackmail, threats, swearing and grudges (FYI not saying that is what you did at all so please don't misinterpret I think in your case your energy had a positive effect which resulted in improved performance for the whole team. I am not necessarily totally against yelling per se. I think what is really important is what you say and how you say it. Tone and body language has as much as affect on how you are perceived as the content of your words and the volume of your voice. I applaud you for your honesty and your ability to question your behavior. In my opinion it shows you really care about your players and this is what makes for great coaches! "...this is best accomplished in a relationship where there is mutual respect and trust, not blackmail, threats, swearing and grudges (FYI not saying that is what you did at all so please don't misinterpret " If you didn't mean to suggest that the above negatives were connected with the OP's behavior, then why did you even mention them. They are completely irrelevant to the matter at hand. Unfortunately, the term "yelling" has become unfairly synonymous with all of the above and more--and that's ridiculous. It's so obvious what the kids were "asking" for is to simply be pushed, to be demanded of. It's what, for right or wrong, many competitive athletes still equate with "yelling." Of course, any coach worth his/her salt will need more than that one tool in the tool belt to maintain a level of commitment and drive in the athletes. But here it seems the message was taken to heart. Good. I mentioned it because mutual respect and trust does not typically occur in a relationship where there is the negative behavior I specified. I stated that this is not what he/she did and not to misinterpret. I was not at all criticizing the approach taken by this coach. I was attempting describe how motivation of athletes does not have to include these negative behaviors. As far as yelling goes just because competitive athletes equate being pushed with yelling does not make it right if the yelling includes improper words and statements. I have no problem with a coach yelling if it is done in a professional positive manner.
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Post by Northern lights on May 2, 2016 13:24:10 GMT -5
Nice to see a coach look inwards. I think you should always be you, because the real you will eventually prevail anyway.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 14:59:39 GMT -5
fact is there isnt a one-size-fits-all coaching style. kids respond differently. and unfortunately its going to be pretty rare when all your players respond in the same way. this is an advantage for colleges where coaches can recruit the type of player they want and in theory players can choose the type of coach they want.
not going to happen at almost any other level.
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Post by gigibear on May 2, 2016 19:31:42 GMT -5
Hate to use this word but I think it fits here...you have to be your authentic self, even if the kids are use to something else. When you are coming into the middle of somebody's else work to take over, it should be expected that things might not mesh. The fact that these girls are use to a culture of yelling has me wondering about their parents and the club culture as a whole. I get having expectations and having them be met. These girls are not being recruited yet so what is the big deal. They are still learning the game and I hope still loving it. Winning is a by product of good skill progression, taught by someone who can teach. If yelling was the only way to get them going before you came along...then they will learn too that is the way to get things done...smh.
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