Post by laurenm on Apr 8, 2010 16:52:27 GMT -5
Hi all,
I found out that my daughter's club team has an "initiation ritual" that rather concerns me. Apparently the other girls on the team tell all the new players that they have to play at least one game without underwear. This came to my attention before we were leaving for last week's game. It was obvious to me that my daughter had on her volleyball shorts without underwear. When I asked her what she was thinking, she initially said that she "forgot". But it was clear to me that something else was going on because by the time we were ready to go, she still hadn't put them on. This is when she told me about the other girls on the team coming up with this ridiculous rule of not wearing panties as some kind of rite of initiation. I had to put my foot down and tell her that this was unacceptable. I explained to her in no uncertain terms that we wouldn't allow her to go play if it she didn't put them on.
Has anyone on the forums ever heard of anything like this before? I had a conversation with some of the other parents and no one was aware of this. Some, like me, were concerned but some seemed to be under the impression that is was fairly normal for players not to wear underwear under the uniform. This seems questionable to me, but I'll admit that I don't know much about it since our family is pretty new to the sport.
I'm hoping that the parents can collectively talk to their daughters and explain that it's inappropriate to pull something like this if for no other reason than that if they want to be respected as serious athletes, they need to distance this kind of petty games. Furthermore though, these games are attended by not just parents but by classmates and presumably even members of the public. It's not a conversation I really wanted to have with her, but I had to explain that without underwear it's very possible for spandex to cling to contours down there and, possibly without knowing it, allow people to see her genitalia. Of course she looked at me like I'm crazy and just too old. :-( Ultimately, I can't help but feel for my daughter because there's no doubt that she's in an awkward position trying to manage the peer pressure.
Anyway, I'm sorry to make such a long post, but I frankly could use some fresh perspective on this -- hence the posting to a random internet forum. Anyone run up against this before?
Lauren
I found out that my daughter's club team has an "initiation ritual" that rather concerns me. Apparently the other girls on the team tell all the new players that they have to play at least one game without underwear. This came to my attention before we were leaving for last week's game. It was obvious to me that my daughter had on her volleyball shorts without underwear. When I asked her what she was thinking, she initially said that she "forgot". But it was clear to me that something else was going on because by the time we were ready to go, she still hadn't put them on. This is when she told me about the other girls on the team coming up with this ridiculous rule of not wearing panties as some kind of rite of initiation. I had to put my foot down and tell her that this was unacceptable. I explained to her in no uncertain terms that we wouldn't allow her to go play if it she didn't put them on.
Has anyone on the forums ever heard of anything like this before? I had a conversation with some of the other parents and no one was aware of this. Some, like me, were concerned but some seemed to be under the impression that is was fairly normal for players not to wear underwear under the uniform. This seems questionable to me, but I'll admit that I don't know much about it since our family is pretty new to the sport.
I'm hoping that the parents can collectively talk to their daughters and explain that it's inappropriate to pull something like this if for no other reason than that if they want to be respected as serious athletes, they need to distance this kind of petty games. Furthermore though, these games are attended by not just parents but by classmates and presumably even members of the public. It's not a conversation I really wanted to have with her, but I had to explain that without underwear it's very possible for spandex to cling to contours down there and, possibly without knowing it, allow people to see her genitalia. Of course she looked at me like I'm crazy and just too old. :-( Ultimately, I can't help but feel for my daughter because there's no doubt that she's in an awkward position trying to manage the peer pressure.
Anyway, I'm sorry to make such a long post, but I frankly could use some fresh perspective on this -- hence the posting to a random internet forum. Anyone run up against this before?
Lauren
hah!