I did not intend to throw a cold, wet blanket here
and apologize for coming off preach-y. please bear with me:
I studied mythology as an undergrad: the clash of sky god tribes & cultures vs earth goddess cultures
one is more acquisitive, the other more nurturing
for one time is linear, the other cyclical
it is facile but you might distill as male energy vs female energy.
But really... we are all one family in countless subgroups
nations, races, cultures, states, political parties, nuclear & extended families etc.
We root for our teams and identify with them
and we reflect their culture.
I earned a Master's degree in Family Therapy in the 80s
My internships included sessions with parents & siblings of schizophrenic patients.
At that point in time there were studies that identified high levels of "expressed emotion" as a contributing detrimental factor
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Expressed_emotionHigh EE is not helpful, generally, in maintaining emotional balance in all kinds of family groups...and a volleyball squad is certainly a family group.
I know nothing about Tyler. But he and JC's nonverbals raise my hackles.
And I see that EE bleed into the game threads on VT.
Does behavior that maintains your own personal balance (homeostasis) negatively affect those around you?
I am an accomplished tournament bridge player... way up there in terms of accrued 'points'. I was never an easy partner
because I would nonverbally AND unfortunately sometimes verbally be abusive to my partner and others. I have worked pretty hard to rein in my bad behavior, which, at its core, is selfish (self-regulation).
I heard the Dalai Lama in Mpls maybe 20 years ago. From that experience
I distilled a mantra
One World - One Family - Warm HeartNow, more than EVER, with our only home (Earth) at risk, we need a big dose of Warm Heart = Compassion
shared among and between those subgroups mentioned upthread
there I go preaching again.
I do not intend to get further involved in NE's coaching ethos or any back & forth here.
Our future is at stake. What are we doing to insure there will be one?
Did you gloss over the mantra? Take a few moments and turn off your judging brain to let it sink in.