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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2021 12:11:22 GMT -5
dude I just discovered your blog and wow this is so interesting. Great content. |
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Post by joetrinsey on Dec 30, 2021 12:24:02 GMT -5
dude I just discovered your blog and wow this is so interesting. Great content. Thanks! Nice of you to say that. |
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Post by oldnewbie on Dec 30, 2021 12:35:08 GMT -5
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Post by getbusy on Dec 30, 2021 12:53:42 GMT -5
Great blog. I completely agree. I wish coaches would embrace the kid that has her own technique and they can improve on it instead of getting to college and some coaches want to completely change everything about them as a person. It rarely goes well. Tom Brady certainly would never have been the greatest quarterback if the coach didn't embrace him and his own style. I have said it before nobody wants to be micro-managed. Give them more responsibility and see what happens.
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Post by BeachbytheBay on Dec 30, 2021 13:05:31 GMT -5
don't know about 'soft' however since I instruct/teach, have noticed over last 5 years the dependency on 19-22 year olds on their connected devices, and an 'impatience' characteristic that has got worse, which I believe is tied to children since about 2003/2004 being brought up totally immersed in modern digital connectivity from age 3+ that didn't exist before
how this manifests itself is that they have a greater impatient when they don't get immediate answers or expectation that everything is laid out to them, i.e., unrealistic expectations. And have trouble teaching themsleves/learning if it's not a 'digital' (such as analog processing) subject.
in other words, they perceive the world markedly different, their congnitive processing of information is just skewed differently than from even the 1980s where the transition from doing 'stuff' on typewriters/paper to the progression of Windows/Digital/INternet/Alexa has transformed interactions
parallels a bit the social media world transformation
what does that mean for instructing & teaching? you have to constantly examine how and what you are using to deliver the message, but it is important that they understand the world is analog and the importance of analog information processing. it's like before 2015 they could do math in their head, now you ask them to multiple 12 x 17 and they freeze if they can't use their 'device'
as to 'soft', not so sure it's 'soft' vs IMO the impatience factor to deal with
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Post by BeachbytheBay on Dec 30, 2021 13:11:48 GMT -5
Dennis Jantzen, Fresno Pacific legend VB coach
"Be what they need me to be"
sums it up from his coaching page below:
"Be What They Need Me to Be
Coaches are by nature, very competitive. We love to win. Science suggests that the key to winning is the ability to stay focused on the task and in-the-moment. How well do you help your athletes to these things? Do your actions match your words? Are you the model of focus and control for the athletes, especially at those highly emotional and competitive times? Or do your words and behaviors sometimes distract?
For years before competitions and practices I would say a short prayer that went something like this, Lord, help me to be what they need me to be.
The science behind peak performance says that the chance of winning decreases as the focus on the need-to-win increases. Winning is nearly always the product of a well-executed process. We know how important “process” is. Indeed, it’s what we stress and try to engrain into our athlete’s minds. We know that a loss of focus will occur in the minds of the athletes during the competition. As coaches, if we’re honest with ourselves, maintaining focus is also a challenge for us. Competition can become very personal.
Hanson Bay, a psychologist with Sport Singapore speaks of time-traveling and mind-reading. Both ideas refer to mental constraints on an athlete’s ability to stay focused and “in the moment”. Time-traveling is when an athlete dwells on past mistakes or struggles with a fear of failure. Mind-reading occurs when an athlete worries about what others might be thinking, especially after a mistake occurs. Coach, how are your actions perceived after an athlete’s mistake? Help me to be what they need me to be.
I am extremely competitive. I enjoy the challenges that come from competition. I love the processes of “trying to get better.” I love to learn…and I love the learning process – both for myself and for those around me. It is a joy to “teach” a competitive sport. A good friend and long-time successful football coach once said to me, “I don’t coach football. I teach football.” His statement made me think about what, in fact, are we really doing when we are “coaching”. What is the true impact of our words and actions on the athletes we are with for those “in-the-moment” moments, and for the longer term? Help me to be what they need me to be.
Leadership is simply behavior that influences. So what am I really teaching when I’m with the athletes? During calmer moments, as coaches, we realize that our focus must always remain centered on giving the athletes what they need in a competition…or practice, or anywhere else where we have influence. In those quiet moments, it’s easy to manifest our role as a significant influencer for the team. However, our influences are also felt during those highly emotional, competitive moments when the game is on the line and an athlete (in whom we have invested time and training) is called on to make the “right” decision or play. Competitive sport can teach any value we want it to – good or bad. These “in-the-moment” moments are powerful and salient. They also create memories and shape values for lifetime. Our influence in those moments carries on far longer than the final point or buzzer. I’ve often said, as a volleyball coach, that if the only thing our athletes learn in our program is “pass-set-hit”, then we have failed them miserably. Help me to be what they need me to be.
John Wooden, legendary men’s basketball coach at UCLA and winner of ten NCAA national championships in 12 years often illustrated life lessons through the recitation of poetry. This short poem frames the powerful and unique influence of the teacher (coach).
No written word, nor spoken plea
Can teach our youth what they should be.
Nor all the books on all the shelves
It’s what the teachers are themselves.
May we, during this holiday season, reflect and be mindful of how blessed we are for the opportunities given to us as coaches. May we truly, and eternally, be to our athletes and others around us, what they need us to be."
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Post by joetrinsey on Dec 30, 2021 14:36:09 GMT -5
don't know about 'soft' however since I instruct/teach, have noticed over last 5 years the dependency on 19-22 year olds on their connected devices, and an 'impatience' characteristic that has got worse, which I believe is tied to children since about 2003/2004 being brought up totally immersed in modern digital connectivity from age 3+ that didn't exist before how this manifests itself is that they have a greater impatient when they don't get immediate answers or expectation that everything is laid out to them
I agree and disagree here.
Agree about devices, etc. However, I wouldn't limit it to 19-22 year-olds. Go to any coaching clinic and look at the eyes of the attendees. Chart the ratio of "eyes on speaker," to, "eyes in lap." Attention is a super-power for sure.
I'd push back on the "expectation that everything is laid out to them." If anything, I see the other way around. I see frustration from old school coaches that players these days want to challenge things and decide for themselves if this is the right or wrong way. I'm not sure players desire more autonomy now than they did 50 years ago, but I think it's tough to argue that they desire less autonomy.
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Post by BeachbytheBay on Dec 30, 2021 15:32:39 GMT -5
don't know about 'soft' however since I instruct/teach, have noticed over last 5 years the dependency on 19-22 year olds on their connected devices, and an 'impatience' characteristic that has got worse, which I believe is tied to children since about 2003/2004 being brought up totally immersed in modern digital connectivity from age 3+ that didn't exist before how this manifests itself is that they have a greater impatient when they don't get immediate answers or expectation that everything is laid out to them I agree and disagree here. Agree about devices, etc. However, I wouldn't limit it to 19-22 year-olds. Go to any coaching clinic and look at the eyes of the attendees. Chart the ratio of "eyes on speaker," to, "eyes in lap." Attention is a super-power for sure. I'd push back on the "expectation that everything is laid out to them." If anything, I see the other way around. I see frustration from old school coaches that players these days want to challenge things and decide for themselves if this is the right or wrong way. I'm not sure players desire more autonomy now than they did 50 years ago, but I think it's tough to argue that they desire less autonomy.
not saying it's just 19-22, only that the recent few years, their 'impatience' factor has gone dramatically up. and yes, it's not totally black and white. youth have always had a rebellious position to 'authority', it's not that aspect that has changed I get that players want to challenge things, however I would add that the difference between 'generations' is a fair amount of the challenging is not based on any accumulated wisdom, but the aforementioned 'impatience'. I hear much more comments of 'I didn't know' as a cop out than I used to get. I think the intent of their questioning is ok, just that they don't wait to question most anything, and listen; don't get me started on the associated lack of listening skills since they have grown up with texting as a conversation mode vs actually talking and listening verbally. it's as if they expect learning to be more instantaneous and immediate now. And there is an influence to 'reject' judgement of teachers/coaches more, due to other factors/influences better left not going into. to your point, I have to explain more and set up learning modules a bit diff for them, but also, gulp, like you said I have to tell them WHY I'm teaching them the way I do more and more. have to ask myself constantly is it me or them, lol it's fascinating the entire aspect of learning (for university level where it's not mandated) will be transformed, given the volumne of virtual options and progress that has occured, the value proposition of a private Uni for $300 k vs. two years at a JC, and two years elsewehere for maybe $60-$80k just is now so stark (vs. 1982, which I had opportunity to go to Stanford for a MS for $11k! for one year, or students could work PT for 8 hours a week and actually not have to take much debt out. Point is |
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Post by shawty on Dec 30, 2021 19:23:31 GMT -5
I love that you posted this. There’s a big difference between taking people out of their comfort zone and creating discomfort that does not approximate situations players might experience in a match. If the practices are designed to be stressful without any connection to a larger principle I don’t see how you succeed long term. Fear will only get you so far. |
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Post by sherisalivingforthis on Dec 30, 2021 21:19:55 GMT -5
To me, it looks like someone like Cook has it figured out. His players seem to like and respect him, but he's also not trying to be BFFs with them, which a lot of kids can see right through.
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Post by gatorbob on Dec 31, 2021 1:16:54 GMT -5
Yes.
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